When it comes to food, what’s happening between our ears is much more important than what’s happening on our plates, because what we believe determines our behaviors.
This is never truer than around the holidays.
Let’s take a look at 3 powerful perspectives that’ll help us navigate this time of year well:
I. Choose a connoisseur mindset. It’s OK to be picky. Food is everywhere so it makes sense to be choosy. Thinking like a connoisseur helps you identify what will satisfy you most. Don’t love canned green beans? Don’t eat ‘em. Being intentionally discerning cuts down on eating a lot of food automatically and unnecessarily.
BIG PAY-OFF: As you choose the foods that really jazz you (rather than choosing what you should eat or just eating everything because it’s there) you will naturally enjoy it more and eat less.
And here’s something really cool: Liberated eaters say that as their mindfulness grows so does their appreciation and awareness of all the other good stuff too – holiday feelings, sounds, smells, sights, and the people they’re with.
That’s a win-win!
II. Choose a journey mindset. Becoming a more mindful, intuitive person (which is what liberated eating is about) is not like flipping on and off a light switch or falling on and off a wagon. It’s a true pilgrimage – a life-changing journey of self-discovery.
BIG PAY-OFF: Having this mindset keeps us focused on our discoveries and progress rather than getting hung up on inevitable mistakes and then harshly condemning ourselves for them. This relieves us of the pressure to eat perfectly, which isn’t possible or even necessary.
It also keeps us from doing that crazy thing I used to do: Trying really hard to “be good.” Eventually “blowing it.” Starting to plan the next Big New Year’s Diet, which led to over-eating my way all the way through November and December.
III. Choose to be gracious with yourself. Overeating sweet potato casserole doesn’t make you a bad person; it just makes you feel bad. If it happens, let go of berating yourself. It. Will. Not. Help.
If self-criticism worked, we would’ve all been thin a long time ago.
BIG PAY-OFF: People who step off the food-shame train and give themselves grace to be human open up fresh, new space to learn and change, permanently. They begin to see what’s happening with a clear head and can begin to build the lifestyle they really want.
Grace also allows us to have a sense of humor – and that makes everything better.
So there you have it. Savor. Discover. Forgive.
Imagine what these holidays might be like if you decide to walk through them as a gracious connoisseur on a holiday journey…